The first experience of something, anything, has the power to break the mould, open your eyes and change your perspective. There is truly nothing quite like the first time. No love like first love and of course no hurt like the first heartbreak. No wonder then, that its impact is so big that it becomes almost impossible to move on.
Especially when it’s a broken relationship and a broken heart! You cry, howl and wallow. You kick, scream and complain about how unfair life is, how ungrateful some people are.
Are you feeling sorry for yourself yet? Done playing the victim and blaming yourself for the heartbreak and the emotional turmoil you’re going through? And have you gone round and round in circles trying to figure why you had to go through heartbreak in the first place?
If the answer is yes, then it’s time to move on. Of course it’s easier said than done. No matter how many people tell you that it happened for the best and no matter how desperately you wanted ‘OUT’ as long as you were ‘IN’ the relationship, once the deed is done, the feeling of a vacuum is pervasive and all-encompassing.
Yeah yeah, I too had a love story. And it all ended up with no reasons. I felt terrible about it but what shocked me more was how devastated I felt after the break-up. The trauma was so intense that I thought my life was finished. Somewhere deep inside I actually hoped that we would get back!
That awful feeling that strikes when you are scared, insecure, vulnerable, and angry becomes a constant. And that is not unusual. Post break-up trauma is a very difficult phase. It doesn't matter whether the relationship was happy, sad or abusive. The sudden breaking of a bond brings enormous insecurities about the future, coupled with a deep sense of longings. And the mind starts to play games.
This is why it’s necessary that you make a clean break. Put away your tissues, put the ice cream back in the freezer and pay attention to your life.
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